[BE PREPARED, THIS POST IS ALL ME, FEELINGS AND RAMBLINGS... YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED]
Over the last two years I have been in some very hurtful, hateful, and sucky situations... I have decided that they were learning experiences. I have always felt like I was a likeable person, but on numerous occasions in the past couple years, I have felt so hated. It was heartbreaking for me. But it taught me that I am stronger than I realized, and I will fight for my family no matter what. I won't let anyone make the people I love most feel bad. As much I as I hate feeling hurt, it is a hundred times worse when I see a person I love hurting. Needless to say, I will go mama grizzly on anyone who hurts my loved ones. Anyways, for a long time I felt bitter, hurt, betrayed, and disrespected. I felt a lot like this quote :
(don't get be wrong, I still love this quote, it just isn't that applicable to this specific situation anymore)
I have learned something very valuable in the last 9 months or so.. THERE ARE ALWAYS 2 SIDES TO EVERY STORY. Always. Two people can look at the EXACT same thing and see something completely DIFFERENT. And the hard part is, usually those 2 people cannot come to an agreement that maybe they are both right (or that both sides feelings may be justified). This has been quite a lesson for me because I tend to think that my way is always right. I don't like to think that there are other options that might be great even if I didn't come up with it. I think that maybe if I hadn't spent so much of my time feeling hurt and disrespected and judging the actions of others, maybe if I had taken the time to try to understand why they were doing the things that were hurting me and my family, maybe I could have gotten past all the drama. I am not justifying their actions (or mine) I am just saying maybe if I had simply asked why they were doing those hurtful things and tried to see their side of the story, instead of blowing up and assuming they were purposely hurting us, it wouldn't have taken me years to get past it. If we were less quick to judge and more quick to assume that people aren't out to hurt you on purpose, we could be a lot happier.In this specific situation in my life that I am referring to, I believe there were a lot of lies going around, especially about me and my husband. I found this gem of a quote the other day which sparked this blog post. "Go in asking." This is from the Be Nice Or Else book I got in hair school. Basically, it means that if there is a problem you go directly to the source of the problem and ASK what is going on. Don't go in with accusing tones or a sarcastic attitude. Go in with the mindset that this person did not mean to hurt you. When you use a non-threatening tone and questions, there is a lot less drama and more problem solving. Moral of my story: Be slow to judge & always go in asking.
Thanks for listening to my ramblings! :)
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