Life Lesson:Go In Asking... :)

[BE PREPARED, THIS POST IS ALL ME, FEELINGS AND RAMBLINGS... YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED]

Over the last two years I have been in some very hurtful, hateful, and sucky situations... I have decided that they were learning experiences. I have always felt like I was a likeable person, but on numerous occasions in the past couple years, I have felt so hated. It was heartbreaking for me. But it taught me that I am stronger than I realized, and I will fight for my family no matter what. I won't let anyone make the people I love most feel bad. As much I as I hate feeling hurt, it is a hundred times worse when I see a person I love hurting. Needless to say, I will go mama grizzly on anyone who hurts my loved ones. Anyways, for a long time I felt bitter, hurt, betrayed, and disrespected. I felt a lot like this quote : 

 (don't get be wrong, I still love this quote, it just isn't that applicable to this specific situation anymore)

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I have learned something very valuable in the last 9 months or so.. THERE ARE ALWAYS 2 SIDES TO EVERY STORY. Always. Two people can look at the EXACT same thing and see something completely DIFFERENT. And the hard part is, usually those 2 people cannot come to an agreement that maybe they are both right (or that both sides feelings may be justified). This has been quite a lesson for me because I tend to think that my way is always right. I don't like to think that there are other options that might be great even if I didn't come up with it. I think that maybe if I hadn't spent so much of my time feeling hurt and disrespected and judging the actions of others, maybe if I had taken the time to try to understand why they were doing the things that were hurting me and my family, maybe I could have gotten past all the drama. I am not justifying their actions (or mine) I am just saying maybe if I had simply asked why they were doing those hurtful things and tried to see their side of the story, instead of blowing up and assuming they were purposely hurting us, it wouldn't have taken me years to get past it. If we were less quick to judge and more quick to assume that people aren't out to hurt you on purpose, we could be a lot happier.In this specific situation in my life that I am referring to, I believe there were a lot of lies going around, especially about me and my husband. I found this gem of a quote the other day which sparked this blog post. "Go in asking." This is from the Be Nice Or Else book I got in hair school. Basically, it means that if there is a problem you go directly to the source of the problem and ASK what is going on. Don't go in with accusing tones or a sarcastic attitude. Go in with the mindset that this person did not mean to hurt you. When you use a non-threatening tone and questions, there is a lot less drama and more problem solving. Moral of my story: Be slow to judge & always go in asking.

Thanks for listening to my ramblings! :)

Baby Dr Appointment

So today we had a dr appointment for the baby. I did the glucose test and also got another ultrasound! We were pretty excited to see our little guy again! He was growing just right and is head down. Yay! The reason we got another ultrasound was because in the first one his kidneys were not functioning the way they are supposed to so they were enlarged. The dr wanted to do a follow up appointment to see how his kidneys were now that he is grown more. Well, his kidneys are still slightly enlarged, not much has changed since our 20 week US. Bummer deal. But, there isn't really much to worry about, in most cases the baby's body fixes itself either by birth or shortly after. The pediatrician will check his kidneys when he is born and possibly put him on antibiotics. But we will see. Nicole (my midwife) said it's a very common thing, especially in boys. Oh, ya, he is still VERY much a boy! :) haha. It was fun to see him again, and see how much he has grown in just 8 weeks!He has really long legs and he's just stretched out all across my body! Everything looks really good so far! I talked to Nicole about my epidural.. the midwives don't really love epidurals.. (when i was pregnant with Noah, they tried to talk me out of one and almost had me convinced I could do it without an epidural!) but after  um about 30 so hours of labor at home and no sleep I chose to have one! And was so pleased with the results! Ha, Trevor and I finally got about 3 hours of sleep and then when it was time to push, I did all the work myself (no one had to hold my legs for me or anything) I was able to stand and squat and do any position.. but the pain was numbed. It was awesome. Anyways, I was telling Nicole that I wanted to have an epidural exactly the same as that and if it was even possible to get that again. She said that it's all about how the woman's body reacts to the epidural and also what the anesthesiologist uses. So anyways, my plan is to ask for the exact same thing during this labor and I am praying it works out for me! :) It was like the best of both worlds.. getting to do all the work and feeling the contractions, being in control of what position I was in and feeling what was working and what wasn't... but not really feeling any pain at all. The only sucky part was pushing for 4+ hours. Well I think I started pushing at 10:00 a.m. and had Noah at 2:55 p.m. I could be wrong on that start time, it could have been 11 that I started pushing. Regardless, it was FOREVER! But that was because Noah's head was stuck on my pelvic bone.. ( he had a massive bruise on his head for about 2 weeks after he was born.) Anyways.... long story! Haha. Our new little baby is doing just fine, just hoping his little kidneys figure out what they are supposed to be doing now! I think I am going to start prenatal classes next month and possibly prenatal yoga. But I hate yoga so we shall see.

One Tree Hill

These are just a few of my favorite quotes from One Tree Hill. I am in love with this show... :) And I am so so happy that all of the episodes are on Netflix. :)

It’s the oldest story in the book, one day you are seventeen and you are planning for someday.. And then quietly and without you ever really noticing someday is today, and then someday is yesterday and this is your life.

If you had a friend you knew you would never see again, what would you say? If you could do one last thing for someone you loved, what would it be? Say it, Do it. Don’t wait. Nothing lasts forever.

It doesn’t matter how you plan, it doesn’t matter how you envision it, without even knowing it sometimes life has a way of finding exactly what you need or exactly who you need.

"At this moment, there are 6 billion, 4 hundred, 71 million, 8 hundred, 18 thousand, 6 hundred, 71 people in the world. Some are running scared.. some are coming home. Some tell lies to make it through the day.. others are just now facing the truth. Some are evil men at war with good, and some are good.. struggling with evil. 6 billion people in the world, 6 billion souls -- and sometimes...all you need is 1." 

You ever look a picture of yourself, and see a stranger in the background?. It makes you wonder how many strangers have pictures of you. How many moments of other peoples life have we been in. Were we a part of someone's life when their dream came true or were we there when their dream died. Did we keep trying to get in? As if we were somehow destined to be there or did the shot take us by surprise. Just think, you could be a big part of someone elses life, and not even know it. - Lucas Scott (Chad Michael Murray

Because it´s only when you´re tested that you truly discover who you are. And it´s only when you´re tested that you discover who you can be. The person that you want to be does exist, somewhere in the other side of hard work and faith, and belief and beyond the HEARTACHE and fear of what life has. - Lucas Scott (Chad Michael Murray)

Potty Training

At the end of last summer, I bought Noah a potty chair with high hopes. Well he thought it was cool to sit on but not really anything else. I figured at least having it around would help him to get used to it.Every so often I try to get him to actually go potty.. there have been a few rare occasions that he would go. Well as of recently he has been showing more and more signs that he is ready to start potty training. He has dry diapers every morning when he wakes up, his diaper is driving him nuts, and he now tells me either right after or right before he going to pee or poop. So for the last like month we have been working on it (slowly..), and he will sit on the potty several times a day but still is having a hard time actually going on the potty. He knows he should, but this kid is so stubborn, it has to be HIS way. Haha. I would say about about once a day he actually goes on potty on the potty. Sometimes every other day. We have lots of accidents. (Ironically, as I am typing this Noah had an accident. Ha guess I should be paying more attention..) Anyways, just yesterday we started with treats any time he went potty. So far, hasn't had much success. Most people tell me, it's too early to start but when he is showing a lot of signs that he is ready, I do not want to wait. Besides, the boy knows the entire alphabet, and 75% of all the sounds each letter makes.. I think he is ready for this! :) (oh ya, and the tiny detail that we have another little baby coming in July and I REFUSE to buy double diapers.) The big dilemma lately is that Noah will not wear his diaper... like way worse than ever before. He says it hurts, and fights and kicks and cries when I try to put it on him. He wears his undies a lot around the house, but I get nervous to take him out in those. We did do a quick hour and a half trip to Costco the other day and he didn't have an accident.... but that was probably a fluke. I am not really sure what do to... except for put 100% full force into potty training so I Noah doesn't have to fight with me about wearing diapers anymore. I have a cute pic of him on the potty but I don't have the energy to post it on here right now!