"You can't have a relationship without any fights, but you can make your relationship worth the fight."
Found this quote today... and it really hit me. I mean, I have always been a believer in "fighting". I believe you can't really, truly know a person until you have fought/argued/disagreed with someone. If you aren't comfortable with them enough to fight with them.... then how can you seriously be ready to marry them?? I don't think it is healthy to be fighting constantly or always at each others throats... but a little disagreement here and there is healthy and even beneficial for your relationship. (in my opinion) I think it is a good, no great, thing to be able to freely and comfortably share your opinions and views with your partner and know that you can still respect each other completely. I don't hold back my feelings... I have never been good at that, I tend to wear my emotions on my sleeve. Trev, on the other hand, is really closed off and unemotional.... it took a lot of work and understanding (and tons of compromise) from both of us to realize what makes the other happy. Trevor and I fought much more when we were dating than we do now married... We have honestly grown closer over the years and fallen much more deeply in love with every day and every disagreement we have. Those fights helped us to better understand what the other needed and what makes us each tick. We have some rules about fighting now, we will never (or at least try very very hard not to) let our children see us fight, we will fight fairly, and always be honest and open with each other. I love Trev with all my heart and I know wihtout a doubt he loves me just the same. We are so completely different from one another, we just balance each other out so perfectly... :) Fun little story: When we started dating a few mutual friends were very into zodiac stuff and we got sucked into it all.. it's very interesting. Anyways, so I am a cancer, which is a Mother of the signs. Cancers tend to be very emotional and motherly, and we always tend to want to "mother hen" everyone around us... Trevor is a Capricorn, the Father of the the signs. Caps tend to be unemotional and grounded and strong, hardworking people. Anyways, since the beginning we always joked we were meant to be together because we are the Mother and Father signs. And honestly, we play our natural born roles very well. :) Back to the point of the story... Make sure your relationship is worth the fights you are putting it through. Treasure your relationship and make it worth everything.
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